Resources to Help You Manage Stress and Mental Health This Holiday Season and Beyond

It’s not a secret the holidays are stressful. Between family gatherings, shopping for and affording gifts, and the change in the seasons, it’s common for people to feel overwhelmed, anxious, and even depressed. While this time of year is often associated with love and happiness, these unpleasant feelings and behaviors can creep in. So, what can you do if the holidays (or the rest of the year) is affecting your mental health?

What is stress?

Let’s start with what stress is. The Mayo Clinic defines it as “a normal psychological and physical reaction to the demands of life.” There is such a thing as good stress that helps motivate you, but there is also bad stress that pushes you beyond your ability to cope. Our brains have a sort of alarm system that we’re born with to help protect us. When we perceive a threat, that part of the brain signals your body to release hormones that increase our heart rate and raise our blood pressure, commonly known as a “fight-or-flight” response. Once the threat is gone, our bodies should return to a relaxed state, but modern life often complicates our responses, and sometimes people’s alarm systems don’t shut off. 

This is where stress management tools come into play. They can help your mind and body adapt, so you’re not always on high alert. Stress can be damaging to your health and your relationships, so it’s helpful to arm your arsenal with stress management techniques. 

There are holistic approaches to reducing stress, which take into account physical, mental, social, and spiritual factors. These include activities such as exercise, meditation, getting a good night’s sleep, journaling, practicing breathing exercises, spending time with friends and family, practicing yoga, and eating a healthy diet. These techniques are factors of a healthy lifestyle and thus play a role in reducing your stress naturally. 

A few helpful stress management apps

There are also apps that can assist you in stress management right at your fingertips. Breathe2Relax provides information on stress, how it affects the body and helps you learn to manage stress through diaphragmatic breathing exercises. Calm helps you find less stress and better sleep. Headspace is an app that makes meditation simple. Center Meditation Timer provides you with distraction-free meditation, insights, and tips. 

But when stress and anxiety become too much, there are plenty of resources available for you to seek the help you or your loved ones need. Let me preface this by saying I’m not a mental health professional. This is not meant to be prescriptive. It’s always recommended that you contact your doctor or mental health professional for medical advice. This is a simply a list of resources to assist you if you or someone you know needs to talk to someone this holiday season.

If you’re looking for someone to talk to

Psychology Today’s website has a myriad of resources to help you on your journey. Whether you’re looking for a therapist, a psychiatrist, a support group, a treatment center, or even teletherapy, they can point you in the right direction. They also have numerous resources available to inform and educate you about mental health.

If you’re not sure where to start, here’s a quick rundown. A therapist is a licensed medical professional that can evaluate, diagnose, and treat emotional and mental disorders. A psychiatrist is a medical doctor that specializes in mental health, including substance use disorder. They use medications, talk therapy, and other treatments to treat mental health conditions. A support group is when a group of people meets to share personal experiences, feelings, coping strategies, and firsthand experiences about diseases or treatments. A treatment center is a healthcare facility that provides therapy for mental and behavioral conditions (sometimes referred to as rehab). Teletherapy refers to mental health counseling that takes place online or over the phone.

The National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) is also a wealth of knowledge to learn more about mental health and to connect you with more specific information based on your needs. They also offer the NAMI HelpLine, a free, nationwide peer-support service that provides information, resource referrals, and support to people living with mental health conditions, their family members and caregivers, mental health providers, and the public. You can contact the NAMI HelpLine Monday through Friday from 10 a.m. to 6 p.m. EST by calling 800-950-NAMI (6264), or you can send them an email at info@nami.org

Please note, if you’re dealing with an emergency situation, call 911.

Other helpful resources

The holidays affect us all differently. It’s OK to seek help for you or someone you know. Here is a list of resources should you need them.

Finding Balance at Home This Holiday Season

Home for the holidays has a new meaning this year as most of us have spent more time at home than ever before. We’ve worked from home, cooked countless meals at home, and facilitated our children’s remote learning from home. As the holiday season quickly approaches, we’re tasked not only with roasting turkeys and wrapping presents but with how to be at home for the holidays when we haven’t left.

While this year is anything but ordinary, we can do our best to make lemonade out of lemons. Here are six tips for finding balance at home this holiday season. 

Take Time Off

This should go without saying, but with many people still hesitant to travel due to COVID-19, the thought of taking a traditional vacation has been put on the back burner. So while taking time to recharge sounds like a no-brainer, make sure you’re utilizing your PTO. Put in for that time off of work, put that out of office, and fully disconnect.

Dedicate a Space for Work and a Space for Everything Else

This is key to finding balance when you’re working from home. It’s best to have a space dedicated to work, so when you sign off for the day, you can mentally and physically step away. This helps your brain disconnect from business and reconnect with your life outside of work. 

Not everyone has the luxury of having a dedicated office space or even a desk. So when your kitchen table is doubling as your work area, create a ritual that signifies when your working hours are over. It could be as simple as closing your computer or making your to-do list for the next day. This small action signals to your brain to turn off work. When you’re on PTO, fully clear your work space so you can use it for fun holiday activities like baking and puzzles.

Give Yourself and Others Grace

This may be the understatement of the year, but 2020 has been different, so it’s going to feel different. If you’re feeling sad or down, it’s OK. You’re allowed to mourn the year you were expecting and the holiday season you usually look forward to. Give yourself the grace to feel what you feel, good and bad. Take the weight off your shoulders. You don’t need to feel merry and cheerful all of the time. Finding balance in your life is a continuous process. There will be ebbs and flows, so be mindful that even if a moment is stressful or overwhelming, you will find peace and happiness again.

Limit Screen Time

Again, we’re stating the obvious here, but we’re saying it because it’s essential. Screen time can add up quickly. Between phones, computers, iPads, and TVs, it seems like we’re always connected to the digital world in some form or fashion, and it’s often at the detriment of our health. Too much screen time has been linked to sleep issues, depression, anxiety, and more, especially in children and teens. 

Additionally, screen time has served as a pacifier for boredom for adults. Think about the last time you stood in a line and just waited without looking at your phone. It might be harder to remember than you think. It’s because when we have a moment of free time, our first instinct is to grab our phones. We can all take a lesson from Michael Rich, MD, MPH, an Associate Professor of Social and Behavioral Sciences at the Harvard T.H. Chan School of Public Health, who says, “Boredom is the space in which creativity and imagination happen.” This holiday season, challenge yourself to disconnect and let your mind wander. You might just find a spark of creativity.

Be Intentional About Family Time

When it feels like we’re spending every moment together, you may not feel the need to engage with your family beyond being in the same room with everyone doing their own thing. As with most things in life, it’s best to act intentionally. Don’t merely coexist with your family, plan to watch a movie together, cook a meal together, or have a game night. Get everyone involved by having everyone choose an activity. Need some fresh ideas? Check out this list.

Take Care of Yourself

Check-in with yourself this holiday season. Take the time to listen to your head and your heart and determine what it is you need. What’s it going to take to end your year on a positive note? Is it relaxing, reading a new book, moving your body, or indulging in seasonal treats? Acknowledge what you need and then take action to take care of yourself. 

It’s so easy in the hustle and bustle of life to forget about ourselves. We take care of business, we take care of others, but we don’t take care of ourselves. John Christensen, Ph.D., past co-chair of the APA Advisory Committee on Colleague Assistance, says, “One of the best things we can do is to develop a reflective habit of checking in with ourselves at least a couple times a day, taking note of the emotional ‘weather’ without judgment.” Hone into your sense of self-awareness and give yourself the gift of whatever it is you need this holiday season.

The Power of Storytelling in the Workplace

We’re 22 times more likely to remember a fact when it’s been wrapped in a story, according to cognitive psychologist, Jerome Bruner. Think about the last spreadsheet you saw in a presentation. When the presenter discussed the data, did they just display it or did they tell a story to give you context? If they simply showed you the spreadsheet, the information likely passed by like a blip in your day. But if the presenter told you why the numbers are the way they are and how your actions impacted them, you may be more likely to remember them after the fact. 

This is because stories are memorable. Storytelling connects the reader or listener to the subject and makes them feel. If the numbers in the spreadsheet showed last month’s positive performance but didn’t explain how you got there, while it’s great for the company, it doesn’t connect you to the information. But if your manager were to explain that because of all the diligent work you’ve been putting in on your current project, you were able to increase revenue by 5% to drive the company’s bottom line, that’s going to mean a lot more. 

Hearing a story evokes emotion, and whether you realize it or not, we tell and  listen to stories all the time in our personal lives and at work. Most storytelling is brief and involves examples, but it’s still an immersive experience for the audience. The combination of facts and story satisfies both the creativity of our right brain and the analytical thinking of our left brain. Storytelling is a powerful tool that can be used to increase performance, drive engagement, and improve your workplace culture. Here’s why. 

Storytelling evokes emotion. 

Stories make people feel, which also means they can make people feel different. Telling a story can help reframe an idea by adding human consequence and emotion. Connecting people to the subject matter elevates your message and increases the likelihood that it’ll be remembered. 

How you can evoke emotion through storytelling today: The next time you’re explaining something to someone, instead of just telling them the facts, tell them how they impacted them. Rather than just sharing positive feedback from customers, explain how their excellent customer service led a customer to leave a glowing review.  

Storytelling changes the frame of mind. 

When an employee is connected to their work and company, they behave differently. They become motivated and inspired instead of stagnant. If you can change an employee’s frame of mind, you can change how they feel about their work. 

How you can change a frame of mind today: People want to know what’s in it for them. That’s not to say all people are selfish, but when presented with information, it’s first nature to assess it personally. When explaining a task to an employee or making an ask of your boss, keep in mind to share with them what they’re getting out of it. This minor detail could mean the difference between them prioritizing your task or not. 

Storytelling makes you human. 

Not to state the obvious, but we’re all human. We all make mistakes, we all accomplish success, and we all experience failure. Storytelling brings empathy into the workplace and provides you with the opportunity to give others a glimpse into your authentic self. 

How you can bring your authenticity to work today: Nobody’s perfect. We all have our doubts and failures. Our human experiences are what make us unique. Relate these experiences to your work when sharing with others. Talking about a positive experience can boost spirits, and sharing a mistake you made can help get someone through a hard time. 

How to Stop Procrastinating According to Your Procrastination Style

Raise your hand if you’re guilty of procrastination. Don’t feel bad, we’ve all been there. You’ve put off that big project that you’ve known about for months. You haven’t gone to the grocery store until you’re left with nothing but that bag of lettuce that always seems to go bad before you can eat it. Maybe you’ve put off that hobby you’ve wanted to start years ago.

Procrastination is the act of avoiding or delaying a task that needs to be done, often by a specific time. While procrastinating may feel good at the time, it usually ends up making us feel worse when we inevitably do whatever it is we’ve been avoiding. So if we know it’s better to get a task done now, why do we wait until later to do it? Understanding what type of procrastinator we are can help us work through this not-so-great habit to accomplish everything on our to-do lists.

What Type of Procrastinator Are You?

When you procrastinate, you’re unnecessarily postponing an action or a decision. Procrastination can cause anxiety, hinder success, and lead to unwanted stress. Understanding why you’re putting something off is the first step to actually getting it done.

The Imposter

The imposter has a big case of (you guessed it) imposter syndrome, in which a person doubts their talents and abilities and fears they’ll be seen as a fraud. They don’t want to begin because it puts them at risk of being unqualified or exposed. If you find yourself procrastinating because you’re afraid to start, know that the feeling is entirely normal. Start by separating fact and fiction. Remind yourself of your accomplishments and the facts and rest assured that it’s OK if you don’t know what you’re doing. Often, we’re all just figuring it out as we go. The hardest thing to do is to take that first step.

The Overwhelmed

Are you procrastinating because you’re overwhelmed? Maybe the task sounds too daunting or requires you to get outside of your comfort zone. Whatever the reason, start by writing down everything you have to do. Sometimes tasks can feel like a lot in your head but become more manageable once they’re down on paper. Once you have your to-do list laid out, start small. Break the tasks or projects into smaller tasks. Take what’s overwhelming and make it more manageable to nip procrastination in the bud.

The Perfectionist

To avoid making mistakes and being judged for them, the perfectionist may choose not to do them. Alternatively, they may spend too much time on one part of a project or task trying to get it right, which leads to poor time management or rushing to get it done. If this sounds like you, understand that there is no such thing as perfect. Keep in mind that done is better than perfect. Do your best, because your best will be good enough.

The “Yes” Woman

This type of procrastinator doesn’t have the word ‘no’ in their vocabulary. They jump at the chance to help, and they say yes before understanding the magnitude of the task. They overload their schedule and then struggle to prioritize. Switching between items on their to-do list isn’t productive, and they’re left feeling busy all the time. If you’re the “yes” woman, stop procrastinating by prioritizing your to-do list. You can choose to prioritize by importance or by the deadline; pick whichever works best for you. Since you’ve already made the commitments, the only way out is through, so start chipping away at the tasks. Then in the future, make sure you’re only saying yes to things that excite you or help you achieve your goals. 

The Two-Minute Rule

Whether or not you resonate with the procrastination styles above, a helpful tip for everyone to live by the two-minute rule. This means that if a task will take you less than two minutes to complete, do it now. When you put off a lot of small tasks, they add up in your head and can feel paralyzing. Things like paying a bill, sending an email, or opening your mail, while all small things, can feel like a lot when you’re trying to knock them all out at once. 

Seven Simple Tools to Increase Productivity Today

Seven Simple Tools to Increase Productivity Today

Are you tired of the latest productivity hack? Yeah, me too. I’ve read through all the ‘How to Increase Your Productivity’ articles, and honestly, they’re overwhelming. No one needs fifty ways to increase productivity. It’s too much. To save you time, I’ve narrowed it down to seven simple things you can do today to increase your productivity. 

Stop Multitasking

Multitasking doesn’t work. Period. It’s impossible for your brain can’t focus on two things at once. Multitasking is inefficient and ineffective and will only result in you spending more time to get the tasks done than if you focused on each task one at a time.

Take Breaks

Speaking of focusing, make sure you take regular breaks when you’re working. It sounds counterintuitive, but giving yourself a five-minute brain break every so often will increase your productivity. Get up, walk around, grab another cup of coffee, and then get back to work. Your concentration will thank you.

Batch Tasks

Do similar things at the same time. It’s that simple. For example, how many times do you check your email a day? Ten? Fifteen? Why not make it three? Once in the morning, once around lunchtime, and once in the evening. Time is wasted when you stop and start every time an email comes through. A few other examples of tasks you can easily batch: phone calls, scheduling social media posts for the week, or meetings (i.e. scheduling multiple meetings in the morning so you can focus on completing work in the afternoons).

Follow the 1-3-5 Rule

At the start of every day or week, write down one big task or project you want to accomplish, three medium tasks, and five small tasks. The act of writing down your to-do list will hold you accountable, and breaking your to-do list up into smaller tasks will make it seem more manageable.

Try the Pomodoro Technique

The Pomodoro Technique is a time management tool that utilizes intervals of work and rest time to accomplish tasks. Set a timer for 25 minutes and focus on getting as much work done as you can in that time frame. When the timer goes off, take a five-minute break. This 30-minute increment is a Pomodoro. After you’ve completed four Pomodoros, take a longer 15-20 minute break. Lather, rinse and repeat until your to-do list is done.

Utilize Technology

There are numerous time management and team management applications that help you organize your projects, team members, and time. If technology is your things, give these a try:

  • Asana: Organize your teams, tasks, and workflow all in one place.
  • Click-Up: This communication and collaboration tool makes working with your teammates and clients a breeze.
  • Evernote: This app is perfect for note-taking, task management, and organizing all in one place.
  • Slack: Make working with others easier by utilizing a communication platform to keep it all straight.
  • Freedom: This tool allows you to block websites and apps so you can minimize distractions.

Say No

Perhaps the most straightforward tool to increase your productivity that’s easier said than done is to say no. That’s it. Stop overloading your to-do list with projects and tasks that aren’t moving the needle forward. Be intentional about what you commit to and what you spend your time on. Saying no might be difficult at first, but your future self will thank you.

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